Girl, Stop Apologizing
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Girl, Stop Apologizing

by Rachel Hollis

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Many girls face the problem of conforming to society's standards to avoid judgment and unhappiness. This often leads to sacrificing their genuine dreams. In her book “Girl, Stop Apologizing”, Rachel Hollis explains the reasons behind this behavior, suggests ways to change it, and offers practical tips to improve your life without making excuses.

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Let's imagine a situation where every woman can do whatever she wants. She would not face misunderstanding or condemnation and would not be tormented by hesitation and self-doubt. Unfortunately, too many women give up on their dreams. Even if one in twenty women followed her dreams, everything would change forever. But it doesn't happen because of several reasons.

First, you must understand a man's natural dependence on attention and other people's opinions. Even in the first years of life, children understand that certain actions can get their parents' attention. For example, they understand that they can get affection and attention from their parents by getting ill or achieving something. Then they carry this habit into adulthood, becoming hypochondriacs, workaholics, or overachievers. So, consciously or not, the public's attitude affects our decisions.

To this morbid desire for attention should be added the imposed stereotype that women’s value lies in realizing themselves as a mother or wife. What do we end up with? Women prioritize the desires of others, ignoring their own. In other words, boys are born to follow their dreams, while girls are born to conform to society's expectations.

These barriers can be broken down. First, you must stop worrying about meeting other people's expectations and stop looking for excuses for doing things you don't like. It's okay not to be like someone else. According to the author, there are some excuses for not changing anything. This book harshly debunks those excuses. Instead, every woman can find inspiring skills to help her designate her dreams and go after them with confidence.

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Why do women have to give up on reaching their goals?
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Being different from other women and focusing on your goals is not bad
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Personal growth can help you make time for your goals and overcome insecurity
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Public opinion or fear of failure should not stop you
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Some things can be really helpful, like focusing on one goal and being able to ask for help
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Steps to help you provide a foundation for success
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Continuous success is a result of the skills available to all
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