Why do married people realize that marriage is not what they imagined it to be? Constant conflicts, dissatisfaction with their partner’s actions, the appearance of children, their growing up, or interference from relatives are just parts of marriage. But why is a genuinely happy marriage so difficult to achieve?

Since childhood, television has shown us how characters quickly overcome conflict situations, and the stories often end with "happily ever after." Such happy endings create false expectations, where we don't even take into account the negative aspects that can happen. They are all an integral part of any marriage, so it's worth looking at things realistically. Even if we can't change the circumstances, we can change our perspective.

When she was a child, Karen, the author, could easily tell who in her class came from a broken home because there were so few of them. Over time, people have stopped being surprised when spouses split up, and sometimes, they even throw divorce parties. According to Karen’s marriage counselor, about 50 percent of people about to get married believe they can walk away from the wedding in time and look for another convenient relationship. We can say that divorce itself has become perceived as commonplace.

A major reason marriages encounter frequent problems is the tendency to view them one-sidedly. People forget that marriage is fundamentally a partnership. The Book of Genesis gives us a great example. Looking at Adam's loneliness and inability to survive alone, God created Eve so they could support each other. Just like the first couple, people today also need to defend the fortress of their relationship. According to the writings of Genesis, in addition to a physical bond, a man and a woman should have a spiritual bond that reflects selflessness. Along with the realization that marriage is a complex and multifaceted work of two partners comes the understanding that our perception must change.