The Defining Decade
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The Defining Decade

by Meg Jay

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“The Defining Decade” by Meg Jay explores the crucial decisions and experiences that shape individuals in their twenties. Having profound experience as a clinical psychologist, Jay discusses the impact of career choices, relationships, and personal development in the youth’s life. If you're seeking guidance on navigating the challenges of early adulthood and making the right choices for your future, “The Defining Decade” is a must-read.

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There are fifty million people in their twenties in the United States, and many of them are facing an unprecedented level of uncertainty about their future. They don't know what their lives will look like in the next few years or even in a decade – not where they'll live, what they'll do for work, or who they'll be with. They struggle with questions about their careers, relationships, and whether they'll have families. This uncertainty causes anxiety, and in the digital age, distractions like social media and free entertainment can feel like temporary relief. When you're in your twenties, making decisions can be tricky because your brain is still figuring things out. The part of it that deals with uncertainty takes its time to mature fully, only finishing up between 20 and 30. Furthermore, age is not the only criterion. Your brain also needs practice to get good at handling life's uncertainties.

You probably have been wondering how one gets better at dealing with big decisions like choosing a university course or moving for a job. The answer is rather simple — practice early. Avoiding decisions because they make you uncomfortable only delays getting better at handling them.

Your twenties are a very suitable learning time, almost as good as when you were a little kid. Just like toddlers pick up languages effortlessly, young adults deal easily with whatever life throws at them. Jobs during this time teach you to handle feelings and deal with people. Work and school give you the skills you need for lots of different situations. And even on a personal level, you receive some valuable lessons. Those relationships in your twenties are like practice runs for serious partnerships.

If you avoid taking chances and making decisions now, you might miss out on making your brain its best. So, go ahead, try new things, and make those decisions — it's the secret to unlocking your brain's full power and setting yourself up for a better future.

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Use your twenties for decision practice and brain growth
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Learn to work with your negative feelings and shift your mindset
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The abundance of choices hinders decision-making for twentysomethings
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Connecting beyond your circle unlocks new opportunities
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Unconventional jobs build identity capital, vital for career success
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Twentysomethings should shift from casual dating to meaningful
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Delaying marriage for experience is no guarantee against divorce
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Consider having children earlier rather than putting them off
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