Repressing unpleasant thoughts and turning a blind eye to awkward situations is an art we humans have mastered. Ignoring the truth seems to be ingrained in our very nature. Sometimes, we cannot even be honest with ourselves. Unraveling the intricacies of our personality types proves to be a challenge. Consider personality tests, for instance. Frequently, we respond to inquiries about our character by painting a picture of who we aspire to be. We do not muster the courage to reveal our true selves honestly.

Anne Bogel experienced firsthand the deceptive allure of personality tests when she proceeded to fill in the Myers-Briggs test. For a long time, she couldn't understand why the recommendations in her results were useless. Myers-Briggs test would cast her as an "architect." The description matched her identity as an avid bookworm. So, she embraced this newfound categorization without hesitation. Unfortunately, a vexing problem lay ahead – the test results were misleading.

Ultimately, she found the answers during a fight with her husband. Marital conflicts served as the beacon of truth, illuminating the depths of her being. The clashes with her husband consistently hinged on the raw and unfiltered emotions. Mistakenly assuming that her husband, Will, displayed apathy, she let her frustration grow exponentially. Finally, she asked herself: "What if I’m not an architect but an idealist?" This means a being who expresses oneself through emotions.

Conversely, Will emerged as a rationalist, navigating conflicts with a calculated and cerebral approach. Once this understanding dawned upon her, the veil of confusion lifted. It wasn't that Will didn't care or failed to listen. They simply possessed distinct methods of processing and resolving conflicts. The story serves as a testament that standardized personality tests cannot always represent your actual personality traits.