Our self-esteem consists of two key components: self-respect and self-efficacy, which we can further break down into their core aspects. The first means appreciating yourself and having a firm belief that you are enough and worthy. The second is responsible for embracing life’s challenges and handling them efficiently. It’s the sureness of your success no matter what. Having both components is a prerequisite for adequate self-esteem.

As humans, we tend to hesitate in our purpose, needing permanent confirmation of our worth. Self-esteem has little to do with flawlessness. It’s rooted in feeling connected to the world and capable of influencing it. Sure, there are ups and downs for people with average self-esteem. One day, they are overwhelmed and frustrated, but the next day, they are ready to reach all of their set goals.

What’s especially important to understand is that self-esteem doesn’t function automatically like the heart or lungs. The good news? We can improve it by developing self-awareness. In the long run, your sense of self-value derives from everyday choices—whether you choose to be honest today or stay in denial of reality.

For your self-esteem to thrive, you must realize that you are responsible for building up your self-worth. In a nutshell, always opt for clarity, even if sweet delusion may seem tempting at first. Is it possible to aim at an invisible goal? Undoubtedly, it’s not. Face up to facts—no matter if they’re pleasant or not. After some time, you will notice the first changes for the better.