It took the author, Vex King, years to arrive at the concept of self-love. This played a particularly significant role in his life, as Vex had a difficult childhood. For example, when he was very young, he, his mother, and his sister lived in deplorable conditions in the basement of their relatives’ house. There were often many strangers in this house, and several times the family heard screams and even saw blood there.

This experience was traumatic for Vex, and for most of his young life, especially in his late teens, he did not accept his past. He was ashamed of what he had gone through and the conditions in which he had grown up. However, over time, as he explored the concept of self-love, the boy came to the conclusion that any experience can become a lesson. Each of us is unique and beautiful because what we have experienced has made us who we are now, and if we have learned these lessons correctly, it has put us on this path in life.

Over time, Vex began to explore self-love more deeply. He realized that self-love consists of two factors: unconditional love and self-improvement. Unconditional love is accepting yourself regardless of circumstances. You don’t need plastic surgery or to lose 5 kg to start loving yourself. Yes, these things can give you confidence, but self-love requires a deeper foundation. The same can be said about unconditional love for someone else. Of course, our loved ones may have annoying habits, but we accept them completely.

Vex emphasizes that true self-love is about finding balance between tolerance and assertiveness, work and rest, seriousness and playfulness.