Unfortunately, we very rarely see ourselves as we are. Our self-image is based on what we believe other people think of us. As a result, you behave the way you are expected rather than the way you want. Although such an approach may lead to success, you will still end up unhappy.

It's all about our values. We always want to be the best version of ourselves. Therefore, we are constantly trying to please someone — a parent, a friend, a teacher, and even a stranger. In doing so, you will find yourself in a dead end. Attempting to conform to the image of the person you are not is a road to losing your true identity. That is why it is crucial to understand your values, not meet someone else's.

What do human values depend on? They are influenced by many factors, from the culture of a home country to our parents’ beliefs. All this creates certain expectations. To live up to them, we often ignore what is meaningful to us. To prevent this from happening, consciously shape your values. Give yourself time alone to realize who you are and what you want. Keep away from the "voices" of others, and you will be able to hear your inner calling.

Next, reflect on your actions. Do they align with your values? What do you do in your free time? What values does the content you consume portray? Analyzing this, you will understand your life guidelines and will be able to see which values make sense and which ones you should give up. Let go of lower ones, such as pride, greed, envy, jealousy, and ego. Try to develop higher values like altruism, compassion, generosity, open-mindedness, and kindness.

Even though being self-aware has many advantages, there is also a downside. In the early stages of "finding yourself," you may sever relationships with some people in your social circle. Don’t worry too much; such changes are sometimes necessary. People with ideals opposite to yours prevent you from becoming a better person. To identify them, conduct a companion audit. Ask yourself, what values they are pursuing — higher or lower? Surround yourself only with those whose views are the same as yours. It will inspire you to strive for self-development and improvement.