Bonk
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Bonk

by Mary Roach

Brief Summary

“Can someone think themselves to orgasm?” is only one of many mind-boggling questions that Mary Roach discusses in her New York bestseller “Bonk.” This book offers insights into sexual arousal and orgasm, and difficulties with them. Combining sharp humor with solid research, Mary Roach makes the science of sex anything but dull.

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The early days of investigating intimate human connections were challenging. A scientist’s work could easily be viewed through a lens of perverted fascination, especially by those stuck in a close-minded perspective. Before the latter half of the 20th century, the study of the body’s response faced immense societal resistance. A heavy feeling of taboo remained in the medical community.

Pursuing this area of study marked a break from researchers’ normal lives, pushing them into an “identity void” where their credibility was frequently at stake. They operated in a society that regarded terms such as “orgasm” with secrecy and shame. Robert Latou Dickinson, among others, took deliberate action by carefully collecting sexual histories. He famously remarked that “bad sex destroyed more marriages than did anything else.” These pioneers chose courage over comfort. They bravely stepped out of their comfort zones to advocate for the scientific importance of arousal.

Some, like John B. Watson, even risked their reputations by reportedly conducting experiments with instrumental insertions in the lab. To avoid public scrutiny and the emotional residue of scandal, early researchers often used themselves or their spouses as subjects. Even the famous Alfred Kinsey had to conduct his physiological studies in secret, filming encounters in an attic to document how the body’s energy shifted during arousal.

With a biologist’s keen eye, Kinsey noted subtle bodily changes, like earlobe swelling and more nasal mucus, which others might have found confusing. Yet, his work revealed that a climax could reset the body and mind, providing relief from physical burdens like stuttering or muscle spasticity.

These early, often awkward investigations were the minimum viable dream of sex research. They became a foundation that allowed future scientists to fulfill their potential and find their footing in a once-forbidden landscape. By choosing to play big in their careers, sex research pioneers challenged the narratives of their time.

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The brave and unconventional trailblazers of sexual exploration
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William Masters and Virginia Johnson’s research changed how we view arousal
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Breaking free from the “vaginocentric” view of orgasm
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Sexual struggles and the intricate process of overcoming them
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Sexual wellness isn’t just about what happens in your body
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