Imagine that a mom tells her child it's time to go home. He asks: "Am I cold?" The mom replies: "No, you're hungry." These kinds of anecdotes bring up a problem that many parents assume they know exactly what their kids need. Providing for their child's physical needs seems to be the priority in a parent's life, and as a result, the parent forgets about the needs of their child's brain.

The brain’s role in a child's development cannot be underestimated. The brain makes us individuals and, as a result, allows us to make decisions, learn about the world, and think. We are not born with a stable personality, which means the constant exertion of certain factors on our brains during childhood can affect who we are now.

When Marco was involved in a car accident with his nanny, he was unharmed. However, the two-year-old toddler's babysitter was taken away in an ambulance. Later, Marco retold the story as "Eeah, Woo Woo" (Eeah was the name the toddler called the babysitter). Marco’s mother realized that this might have some developmental implications for him. She took Marco to visit the nanny and see that she was okay. This closure helped Marco’s brain make sense of the situation.

Our brain is responsible for many processes in our body, including mental health. When all elements of our brain work cohesively, effective integration occurs. We all have memories that may be sitting deep within us. We may face their effects every day and not even realize it. Memory integration helps our brain to process and cope with such memories.

We need to pay special attention to this regarding our children. In essence, you have to play LEGO with your children's brains, putting the right pieces together for the sake of your child growing up mentally healthy. You should be able to help your children find the middle ground between violent reactions to stress and being lost; thus, they will know how to find a peaceful way out.