Shame is a universally experienced emotion that can create a crippling fear of judgment and rejection. It's like standing on a stage with the entire world watching, wishing to disappear, too afraid to meet anyone's gaze. But why do we experience this emotion so deeply?

Humans are inherently social creatures with fundamental needs for love, connection, and belonging. We've lived in tribes and families since the dawn of time for survival. However, shame cuts through these bonds. It lingers in our thoughts, convincing us we're unworthy of acceptance or love. It's an insidious emotion that can stop us from expressing ourselves, deter us from sharing our talents or pursuing new ventures. We fear failure, criticism, and becoming a "laughing stock."

Shame can also prevent us from believing in our own capacity for self-improvement. Research consistently shows that shame is purely a destructive emotional state without any positive effects. It can cause distress and stress, leading us to lose faith in our potential.

In today's digital age, platforms like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Pinterest allow users to display their lives in an online format. However, this constant exposure to others' lives can trigger feelings of envy and inadequacy. This is especially true when a friend buys a new car, a classmate travels to an exotic island, or when we compare ourselves physically and financially to bloggers and celebrities. This constant comparison, shame, and subsequent alienation can halt personal growth and diminish our faith in our abilities.

Moreover, traumatic events like the September 11 attacks, the storming of the US Capitol, and natural disasters contribute to a "never-enough" culture. We live in a state of scarcity, constantly feeling like something is missing or not enough. This fear of scarcity operates like "post-traumatic stress," preventing us from addressing the root cause and, instead, making us suppress our fears.

While the "never-enough" culture cannot protect us from life's hardships, understanding the role of shame in our lives can help us overcome its influence. Recognizing our uniqueness and self-worth can encourage us to take risks and continue personal growth despite the fear of judgment.